Revoke the VIP: Boundaries Are Not Optional

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Stupidbubble Staff Writer

Catch it, it’s coming! Ready? It’s not a VIP pass if everybody has one.
Your time, energy, and peace are not community property. You’re not a public park. You’re not a 24/7 emotional ATM. Knowing you since braces—or sharing a last name—doesn’t grant lifetime access to your soul.

Stop romanticizing unlimited access. Start respecting boundaries—especially with people who think they’re immune to them.

1) Familiarity ≠ Entitlement

Longevity isn’t loyalty. Proximity isn’t purpose. History is not a hall pass.
The cousin who throws shade “as a joke,” the friend who drains you on schedule, the family member who guilt-trips like it’s a hobby—why are they still front row?

2) “But It’s Family…” Isn’t a Free Pass

Blood doesn’t cancel accountability. Toxic is toxic, DNA or not.
You don’t owe your peace to people who regularly disturb it. Respect isn’t automatic; it’s earned. Even family can be demoted.

3) Friendship Isn’t a One-Way Faucet

If they only call when they need something, vanish when you struggle, or get weird when you level up—that’s convenience, not care. Your boundaries aren’t a wall; they’re a filter. Let real ones through. Let the rest keep scrolling.

4) Nice Isn’t the Same as Numb

There’s nothing noble about burning out to keep others warm.
You can be kind and still say no. Compassionate and still cut off. Love them and still love you more. Boundaries don’t make you mean; they make you responsible.

5) Access Should Match Effort

If they don’t contribute to your growth, peace, or joy, why are they backstage? Access is a privilege, not a right. Set the standard. Enforce the boundary. Protect the asset: you.

Quiet boundaries speak loud.

Life Lesson

If access costs your peace, the price is wrong. Revoke the pass.

The Stupidbubble Boundary Play (this week)

Audit the list: Inner circle (3), middle circle (5), acquaintances (the rest). Move names accordingly.

• Default response: “Thanks for thinking of me—not a fit for me right now.” Practice out loud.
• Office hours: Choose two windows/week for emotional labor; everything else is closed.
• Consequences: One breach = one boundary reminder. Two breaches = reduced access.
• Proof of change: Don’t announce. Move differently for 30 days. Patterns reveal themselves.

Everybody has a stupidbubble. Some stay trapped. Some break it. We turn ours into power.

Bottom line: You’re the gate, not the giveaway.

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Throw on your stupidbubble T' and just start moving differently.
Quiet boundaries speak loud as hell.

So... who’s getting off your list first?
Drop a comment. Let’s talk about boundaries, upgrades, and taking our energy back.