Addicted to the Drama You Swear You HATE

Written by

Janis Todd-Randall, BA, MA, EMBA

Stupidbubble Founder

Addicted to the Drama You Swear You HATE. Yeah, I said it. Sit with that.

Here’s your permission slip to get uncomfortable: you’re not always the victim. Sometimes you keep the mess alive—not because you love suffering, but because chaos is familiar. Familiar feels safe, even while it’s slowly wrecking you.

You Crave the Climax, Not the Calm

You say you want peace, but when peace pulls up, you sabotage it. Relationships that feel like war zones, friendships that always need rescuing, situations forever on the edge of explosion—tell the truth: the mess gives you purpose. Fixing people makes you feel needed. Running crisis to crisis makes you feel important. Texting your toxic ex? It’s something—and something beats silence.

Reality check: not everything that grabs your attention deserves your energy.

Your Patterns Aren’t Random—They’re Comfortable

“Why does this always happen to me?” Because it’s a script you know by heart. You know how it starts, how it crashes, and how you’ll rinse and repeat. Predictable chaos is still chaos. If you’re always in survival mode, you’re never actually living.

Stop Calling Trauma a Personality Trait

Being “the strong one,” “the misunderstood one,” “the one who always gets hurt”—that’s identity cosplay. Strength isn’t surviving drama; strength is refusing the same scene. You’re not stuck—you’re comfortable in the dysfunction. Healing is scary. Staying wrecked is worse.

Breaking the Cycle Means Sitting in the Quiet

Change requires stillness. Facing yourself. Asking why peace makes you itchy and why you keep replying to people who already showed you who they are. Let choosing better be the new drama.

Life Lesson

If chaos feels like home, it’s time to move. Pack the pattern, not your worth. Choose peace on purpose.

The Stupidbubble Calm-Code (this week)

• Name the hook: Write the exact chaos you chase (person, platform, pattern).
• Interrupt the loop: 48-hour no-contact / no-clapback rule for known triggers.
• Replace the spike: When you crave a fight, do a 10-minute walk, breathwork set, or call a calm friend.
• Rebuild baseline: Sleep on schedule, hydrate, real meals—nervous system before narratives.
• Repair with action: Apologize without excuses. Set one boundary you’ll actually enforce. Track wins, not drama.

Everybody has a stupidbubble. Some stay trapped. Some break it. We turn ours into power.

Bottom line: You’re not powerless—you’re on autopilot. Turn the wheel.

Ready to choose peace on purpose? 

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