Addicted to Chaos
Written by
Janis Todd-Randall, BA, MA, EMBA
Stupidbubble Founder
Yeah, I said it. Sit with that for a minute.
Here’s your permission slip to get uncomfortable:
You’re not always the victim.
Sometimes, you’re the one keeping the mess alive.
Not because you love suffering—but because chaos is familiar. And what’s familiar feels safe, even when it’s slowly wrecking you.
Let’s go ahead and rip off the band-aid:
You might be addicted to the drama you swear you hate.
You Crave the Climax, Not the Calm
You say you want peace, but every time peace shows up, you sabotage it.
Why?
Because you’ve wired yourself to believe that calm = boring.
You’re used to relationships that feel like war zones, friendships that need rescuing, and situations that always feel just about to explode.
Burst the damn bubble—sometimes the mess gives you purpose.
Fixing people? Makes you feel needed.
Running from crisis to crisis? Makes you feel important.
Arguing with that same toxic ex? Feels like something—and something feels better than silence.
But here’s the truth bomb:
Not everything that grabs your attention deserves your energy.
Your Patterns Aren’t Random—they’re Comfortable
That "why does this always happen to me?" feeling?
It’s not the universe conspiring against you. It’s you, replaying a pattern that feels safe because it’s known.
You know how it starts.
You know how it crashes.
You even know how you’ll crawl out of it, rinse, and repeat.
Guess what?
Predictable chaos is still chaos.
And if you’re always in survival mode, you’re never actually living.
Stop Calling Trauma a Personality Trait
Let’s be honest—some of us wear our pain like a badge of honor.
We build whole identities around being “the strong one,” “the misunderstood one,” or “the one who always gets hurt.”
But strength isn’t about surviving drama.
It’s about saying NO to the same old patterns.
It’s about realizing you’re not stuck—you’re just comfortable in the dysfunction.
And yeah, healing is scary.
But being stuck in chaos forever? That’s terrifying. You need a breakthrough!
Breaking the Cycle Means Sitting in the Quiet
You want change? Good.
That means facing stillness.
Facing yourself.
Facing the reasons why peace makes you itchy and why you keep answering texts from people who already showed you who they are.
Let that be the new drama—choosing better.
The Wrap: Get Honest or Stay Stuck
You’re not powerless. You’re just on autopilot.
And breaking out of the chaos isn’t about waiting for someone to save you—
It’s about recognizing when you’ve been your own villain.
Hard pill? Yeah.
Necessary? Absolutely.
You’ve got choices. Make new ones.
Because the longer you stay addicted to the mess, the longer you delay your breakthrough.
Let’s talk—
Drop a comment below: What chaos are YOU done with? What peace are you finally choosing? Love you🖤