VIP Access to You

Written by

Stupidbubble Staff Writer

Okay, catch it, it's coming... It's not a VIP pass if everybody has one. It's time to revoke some passes, one of which you have given to your momma, daddy, your “ride or die,” and some other folks. 

Your time, energy, and peace are not community property.
You are not a public park. You are not a 24/7 emotional ATM. And you are damn sure not required to give everyone in your life VIP access to your soul just because they’ve known you since you had braces or shared a womb.

It’s time we stop romanticizing unlimited access and start respecting the power of boundaries—especially with the people who think they’re immune to them.

1. Familiarity Doesn’t Equal Entitlement

Just because someone’s been around for years doesn’t mean they still deserve front-row seats in your life.
Longevity is not loyalty.
Proximity is not purpose.
And history is not a hall pass for disrespect.

Your cousin who always throws shade in the name of “jokes”?
Your friend who drains you emotionally every damn time you talk?
That family member who uses guilt like it’s their love language?

Yeah… they’re on the access list—and it’s time to shrink it.

2. “But It’s Family…” Isn’t a Free Pass

Let’s be clear: blood does not give people permission to walk all over you.
Toxic is toxic—even if they share your DNA.

Stop letting people weaponize family ties to keep you small, silent, or stuck.
You don’t owe your peace to people who constantly disturb it.
You don’t owe access to people who misuse it.

Respect isn’t automatic. It’s earned. And even family needs to come correct or get demoted.

3. Friends Shouldn’t Drain You Either

Let’s talk about those so-called “friends” who:

- Only call when they need something

- Vanish when you’re the one struggling

- Get weird when you start leveling up

Those people! That’s not friendship. That’s one-sided convenience.
And no, you’re not “too sensitive.” You’re finally paying attention.

Your boundaries aren’t a wall—they’re a filter.
Let the real ones through. Let the fake ones keep scrolling.

4. Being Nice Is Cool. Being a Doormat Isn’t.

There’s nothing noble about burning yourself out to keep other people warm.
There’s nothing empowering about letting folks drain you because “they don’t mean it.”

You can be kind and still say no.
You can be compassionate and still cut people off.
You can love someone and still love yourself more.

Boundaries don’t make you mean. They make you emotionally responsible.

5. Access Should Match Effort

If someone isn’t contributing to your growth, peace, or joy—why are they still in your inner circle? If they can’t show up when it counts, why do they get a front-row seat to your wins?

Access is a privilege, not a right.
Set the standard. Enforce the boundary. Protect your energy.

You don’t need to make a dramatic announcement.

Throw on your stupidbubble T' and just start moving differently.
Quiet boundaries speak loud as hell.

Lastly, Trim the Guest List

Your life is not an open bar.: 
Stop pouring into people who only show up for the free drinks.

Start curating your circle with intention.
Start choosing your peace over their proximity.
Start giving yourself permission to let people go—without guilt, without explanation.

Because not everyone deserves access to you.

So... who’s getting off your list first?
Drop a comment. Let’s talk about boundaries, upgrades, and taking our energy back. 🖤💥