File A Restraining Order

Written by

Stupidbubble Staff Writer

 

Remember our talk about how listening gives you more information than talking. I need you to hear me! Healing isn’t some passive, soft-lit spa day where you journal your trauma away while sipping cucumber water. Healing is war. And the battlefield? Nine times out of ten—it’s your own damn environment. File a restraining order!

You’re out here trying to grow, evolve, and glow, but you're still surrounded by the same people, beliefs, and spaces that cracked you in the first place. That’s like trying to recover from smoke inhalation while chilling in a burning building.

Familiar Doesn't Equal Safe

We confuse familiarity with safety. Just because you've always been around them—family, friends, that “spiritual” community that’s always lowkey judging you—doesn’t mean it’s where you belong. If the vibes are off, the love feels conditional, and your growth is met with side-eyes and guilt trips, then guess what? That’s not support. That’s sabotage dressed in Sunday clothes.

You can’t be expected to blossom in soil that keeps poisoning your roots.

 

Ditching toxic communities, families, and belief systems that gaslight our growth. 

Toxic spaces will make you feel crazy for daring to want more. They'll spin your growth into rebellion. Your boundaries become “disrespectful.” Your healing journey? “Selfish.” Let’s call it what it is—gaslighting.

They'll say, “You’ve changed,” as if that’s a bad thing. Spoiler alert: you’re supposed to. Growth is not betrayal. Staying broken to keep others comfortable? Now that’s betrayal—of yourself.

Burn the Map, Find a New Route

Sometimes healing requires distance. Physical, emotional, spiritual. That might mean moving out, walking away, or cutting ties with the very structures you were taught to depend on. It's terrifying, but it’s also liberation.

Your healing doesn’t need approval, it needs permission—and that permission comes from you.

Leaving Isn't Weak, It's Wildly Brave

You are not obligated to stay in places that break you just because you love them. Love without accountability is a trap. And staying where your soul is suffocating? That’s a slow death. Walking away? That’s resurrection.

No, you’re not “too sensitive.” You’re just no longer numb. And that’s a powerful place to be.

Wrap up

You owe it to yourself to go where your peace isn’t a negotiation and your growth doesn’t feel like rebellion. Healing starts where the hurt ends.

Now tell us:

What spaces have you had to leave to save yourself?
What support systems helped you heal—or did you have to build your own?

Let’s talk. Let’s grow. Let’s get free.

Drop your thoughts, stories, and questions in the comments.

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